Watchtower quotes and experiences on treating those disfellowshipped
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The sample included 1, participants girls. Linear regressions suggest that students with academically engaged friends may achieve to levels higher than expected in Grade 8. Low-achieving girls who had high-achieving friends in Grade 6 had lower academic achievement than expected by Grade 8. In contrast, high-achieving girls seemed to benefit from having high-achieving friends.
Implications for theory and prevention efforts targeting young adolescents are discussed. During this transition, students leave their small, intimate, and well-structured elementary schools with familiar peers to enter larger and more impersonal middle schools that include unfamiliar peers. In middle school, students commonly have several teachers, so it is challenging for educators to have the deep relationships with their pupils that elementary school teachers have.
At the same time, schoolwork becomes more difficult and students are required to be more autonomous in the management of their work.
Because early adolescents are required to adapt to many changes in their academic routines and social life, it is not surprising that some youth experience stress, behavioral changes, and declining academic achievement Alspaugh, ; B.
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Hartup reviewed evidence showing that adolescents initially associate with peers who resemble themselves in terms of behavior, interests, and attitudes, and subsequently reinforce in each other those characteristics that brought them together in the first place. This leads conventional friends to further comply with social norms, whereas antisocial friends engage in increasingly problematic behavior. Vitaro, Brendgen, and Wanner studied trajectories of associations with delinquent friends by using a global measure of delinquency that included problem behaviors such as aggression, destruction, and substance use.
They found that participants whose friends displayed higher levels of delinquency between age 10 and 13 years had lower levels of academic achievement during the same period than did participants who affiliated with friends with lower levels of delinquent behavior. For example, students may learn effective study skills by observing and imitating the study habits of their high-achieving friends; they may also have privileged access to valuable academic support.
Also, the learning processes that take place when a student is collaborating with a high-achieving friend on an academic task may be particularly efficient if their interactions are more engaging and stimulating than they would be with average-achieving peers A.
We cannot assume that all high-achieving students have the skills to structure a positive learning environment for their friends. Specifically, high-achieving friends may have high levels of engagement in school-appropriate behaviors.
Your loyalty to Jehovah may increase the likelihood that the disciplined one will repent and return to Jehovah. Yes for several reasons. Although there might be a need for limited contact on some rare occasion to care for a necessary family matter, any such contact should be kept to a minimum.
The extent of contact that you will then have with him depends on his age and other circumstances. If the child is a minor and is living at home, you will naturally continue to take care of his physical needs. He also requires moral training and discipline, and you have the responsibility to provide these.
You can draw his attention to various scriptures and to the publications provided by the faithful and discreet slave. All of this can be done in hopes that he will take Scriptural counsel to heart. The situation is different if the disfellowshipped one is not a minor and is living away from home. The apostle Paul admonished Christians in ancient Corinth: Quit mixing in company with anyone called a brother that is a fornicator or a greedy person or an idolater or a reviler or a drunkard or an extortioner, not even eating with such a man.
When an erring child is disciplined by Christian shepherds, it would be unwise if you were to reject or minimize their Bible-based action. Siding with your rebellious child would not be providing any real protection from the Devil. Actually, you would be endangering your own spiritual health.
On the other hand, by supporting the efforts of the shepherds, you will remain solid in the faith and will provide the best help for your child. Would we want to take that first step with a disfellowshipped person? After hearing a talk at a circuit assembly, a brother and his fleshly sister realized that they needed to make adjustments in the way they treated their mother, who lived elsewhere and who had been disfellowshipped for six years. Immediately after the assembly, the man called his mother, and after assuring her of their love, he explained that they could no longer talk to her unless there were important family matters requiring contact.
Thus, a man who is disfellowshipped or who disassociates himself may still live at home with his Christian wife and faithful children The situation is different if the disfellowshipped or disassociated one is a relative living outside the immediate family circle and home.
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It might be possible to have almost no contact at all with the relative. Even if there were some family matters requiring contact, this certainly would be kept to a minimum, in line with the divine principle: Yet, this is a test of loyalty to God, as stated by the sister quoted on page But the disfellowshiped relative should be made to appreciate that his status has changed, that he is no longer welcome in the home nor is he a preferred companion.
To do this would be disastrous, and so the faithful family member must recognize and conform to the disfellowship order. How would or could this be done while living under the same roof or in personal, physical contact daily with the disfellowshiped? By refusing to have religious relationship with the disfellowshiped.
The comment was made: It is quite shocking that under certain circumstances even a parent can be disfellowshipped for associating with their own disfellowshipped children. Normally, a close relative would not be disfellowshipped for associating with a disfellowshipped person unless there is spiritual association or an effort made to justify or excuse the wrongful course. Pay Attention to Yourselves and all the Flock p.
Assist those having undue association with disfellowshipped or disassociated relatives. He would not be dealt with judicially unless there is persistent spiritual association or he openly criticizes the disfellowshipping decision.
Experiences of Disfellowshipped People The Last Night Mum brought my brothers and sister over to my apartment the Thursday they were to announce my disfellowshipping. We made small talk and laughed like we always did and then she cleared her throat. A stillness came over the room. Everyone grew uncomfortable and their smiles quickly dissipated.
They each, one by one, hugged me uncomfortably with confused looks on their faces. Emily was 9, Chad 11, Michael I remember Emily quietly sobbing and clutching my skirt with her little chubby fingers at one point, as Mom went on about how I had a choice and this is what I chose.
She wore glitter nail polish and had a smiley face drawn on her left thumb by her friends at school earlier that day. She was once lost, but now is found. You made a promise to Jehovah on June 13, and dedicated your life to serving him; today you have decided to turn your back on God.
And, then I thought back to those little glitter nails… the hand drawn smiley face. I went back to before the lecture, to the first 15 minutes when we laughed and made small talk. It was the last normal moment I ever had with my family. At that time, I was busy wooing my wife-to-be, and very busy with starting a life of my own. I shunned her completely just like I was supposed to.
At first, I felt self-righteous in shunning her.ommag.info midweek meeting : "we are in the great tribulation"