Get sloppy seconds. .. If she's really bad then you should humiliate her and let her have it right out in the open in a car. she'll be gushing then!. A Memoir of Open Marriage, Turbulent Love and Hard-Won Wisdom Louisa Leontiades, Gracie X. Get a life. I have to be satisfied with sloppy seconds. long-distance relationship that began in high school, I wanted nothing more hot and very sweet but, more importantly, very naïve and very open to suggestion.
He mentioned the place to her, and her response was NO, she didn't want to go there because she didn't want to have "sloppy seconds. Additionally, the way he brushed this off means this isn't the first time. I go out of my way to show him places I think they would like to go together.
I don't know if my feelings are just hurt—if it's as childish as I think it is—or if it's a reminder of my very low place in their hierarchy. I hesitate to bring this up, because when I have needs or concerns, they label me as difficult or needy.
Is this part of a bigger trend I'm missing? Should I do anything to address this or just continue to stay out of their business and go where I wish with my partner?
But taking a partner's needs and concerns seriously is one of the hallmarks of a good relationship, to say nothing of a "best relationship ever. I don't know you or how you are.
It's entirely possible that you share your needs and concerns in a way that comes across as—or actually is—needy and difficult. Our experience of interpersonal relationships, like our experience of anything and everything else, is subjective. I would need to depose your boyfriend and his wife, TWO, to make a determination and issue a ruling.
It's a really bad sign that your boyfriend's wife compared eating in a restaurant you visited with him to fucking a hole that someone else just fucked, i. Some people are poly under duress PUDi.
But PUDs who don't come around or haven't come around yet will engage in small acts of sabotage to signal their unhappiness—their perfectly understandable unhappiness. The most common form of PUD sabotage? Making their primary partner's secondary partner s feel uncomfortable and unwelcome.
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As you probably know but if you don't, you're about to find outpoly relationships have all kinds of sometimes incredibly arbitrary but also incredibly important rules.
If one of their rules is "My wife doesn't want to hear from or about my girlfriend," TWO, then your restaurant recommendations are going to fall flat.
Being poly means navigating rules and sometimes asking to renegotiate those rules and juggling multiple people's feelings, needs, and concerns. You have to show respect for their rules, TWO, as they are each other's primary partners. But your boyfriend and his wife have to show respect for you, too. Secondary though you may be, your needs, concerns, feelings, etc. And if their rules make you feel disrespected, unvalued, or too low on the hierarchical poly totem pole, you should dump them.
My wife said she didn't care who I slept with soon after we met. At the time, I didn't want to sleep with anyone else. But we eventually became monogamish—it started as me texting her a fantasy while I was at work, and that fantasy was waiting for me when I got home—it was fun, but it wasn't something I needed.
After a couple years of playing together with others in private and in clubs, she said she wanted to open our relationship. I got a girlfriend, had fun until the new relationship energy NRE wore off, and ended things. Then my wife got a great job on the other side of the state and I stayed behind to get our house into a sellable condition. Chances are they wouldn't even ask me in the first place. As for the 1 on So vivid, the gals who read my free flowing "mind" might have to go service themselves or need immediate sexual attention from the nearest male.
I can put them in the mood if I want to.
Not as a sick pervert Very very easy for me. You would be surprised. I was going to sleep with this older lady I knew and start a fling. She had a boyfriend. He called her and started talking crap. While he was talking smack I was feeling on her. He could hear here getting pleased and it got quiet for a second.
He flipped out and hanged up the phone. He called back while I was doing her.
She picked up the phone and he listening the whole time. She started talking smack to him about how she was getting it.
At first she was doing it out of anger but then it turned to lust. I couldnt here him but I could hear her obviously giving him instructions on how to get off. Then we began our fling.
At first I didn't know he knew we where having a fling. He would leave the house or go somewhere and I would come over dump my stuff off in her, leave and then they would do their thing. She would tell me everything about him and how he says constantly that he's not gay etc.