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So, we read the Bible and the Ramayana. We sing gospels and chant mantras.
We talk about the Buddha and tell folk religion origin stories. We build sukkahs and release our clay Ganeshas into the ocean. We decorate our Christmas tree and light our menorah. We talk about peace, justice, compassion, generosity and God — referencing religions far beyond our own, across time, distance, and culture.
Despite all this, some people still ask us, exasperated: It makes sense that so many of us dream, initially at least, that we will find true love with a person who shares the same religious label, because we think it means they have walked the same religious path that we have. We naturally look for someone who has made the same leaps of faith, who has gone through the same internal transformation, who nods along knowingly as we describe our indescribable connection to something invisible.
We imagine someone who gets us, who shares the same truth or God or gods that we do, or, perhaps, who has uttered the same denials as us, or who remains as steadfastly unsure about the meaning of it all as we ourselves are. The assumption here is that sharing the same religion is a shortcut to deeper unity. But praying the same words in the same order, or reading the same sacred book through and through again, or singing the same songs are not necessarily a gateway to a meaningful connection.
Each journey of faith is unique and personal. No two believers are alike. And, as anyone in any relationship will tell you, no two people are alike. Everyone has their own views, opinions and convictions, regardless of their chosen religion or lack of one.
Some relationships are interfaith, but all relationships are inter-belief. What is that necessary and sufficient factor? We have found that it is far more important to share the same values than the same religion.Mere Rashke Qamar- New.- Hindu Boy -- Muslim Girl -- Cute Love Story.-Mere Rashke Qamar- New.- Hindu
It is true that some values are associated more closely with certain religion affiliations. Before our marriage, I remember people in the neighbourhood would ask Parvez about his intention in marrying me.
And in Srinagar, once some men had come to our house and they asked Parvez if I prayed. But some of my students [in interfaith relationships] have written about not finding places to rent. If I could sum up how well our families took it, then there could be no better example then my father.
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He would visit us in Kashmir every year until he died. I think he fell in love with Kashmir too. We have had to leave our families, our homes, our friends - just everything behind to get married. We fell in love with each other when we were in school. Nobody knew about it other than our friends. We knew it would bring trouble if people came to know a Hindu boy and Muslim girl were going out together. Our friends teased us about it.
And one day, eventually, both our families found out. There was a lot of trouble, especially at her home. Her brothers had locked her up. Our families are still on the lookout for us, we don't want them to find us. We just want to live peacefully.
Tejveer We both tried to convince them. We tried for months but nothing came of it. Both our families were too stubborn, so we knew we had to run away from them. There was no other way for us to be together otherwise, and that's what we did. We ran away and came to Delhi. Then we got married. It hasn't been easy here, either. Renting a place proved to be a big hassle. People would be nice to us at first, show us around, and even negotiate the rent.
But then, when they would hear our names, it made them really tense. Now I work as a video editor and do some camera work, and she mostly stays home. Despite my wife being Hindu and me a Christian, we've never faced anything because of our differences in faith, at least externally. As a couple, the challenges we've faced are more to do with adapting to each other's cultures, but religion has never been in the mix. Although, we couldn't do a church marriage because we didn't want to convert - without this a church wedding wasn't possible.
The other thing came up recently was what religion our daughter should practice. We will let her decide what religion she wants to follow, when she wants to. I don't think [being in an interfaith relationship is] that bad in some sections [of society]. But that said, I have a friend who happens to be a Muslim married to a Hindu woman, and I can tell you they go through hell. She got along with the family, the neighbours and even the extended family in no time. We met when both were in a law school in Delhi in and three years later we decided to marry.
To be honest, we haven't had to face any problems. Nobody objected to it. Not her family, not my family or neighbours.
They were, in fact, all really happy about it. Gulzar When we had to meet her parents before the marriage, I wasn't nervous.
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Similarly, when we went back to Kargil for our wedding, everything fell into the place. Some people do face problems but that wasn't the case for us.
Once, we were travelling back from Srinagar airport.